Therapy For Soldiers: Its Importance And Challenges

Being a soldier entails being an example of discipline, courage, bravery, and strength. It is a great honor to your family and country. But protecting a nation is not a walk in the park. No one can deny the harsh reality that these men and women face out there on the field. 

They experience situations that no one can imagine. It affects them gravely to the point where they lose themselves. Sadly, the number of military personnel committing suicide is rising. The Veteran Administration is pushing to provide services, such as therapy and counsel, to help them with their mental health.

The Hardships Of Being A Soldier

The work of a soldier is demanding. The tedious training they go through to get into the armed forces is already a challenge. But the hardships they go through doubles the moment they are deployed. They encounter physical, mental, and social problems. And this can affect their overall well-being.

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They become susceptible to physical dangers, such as a hostile environment. Unfortunately, not all military men are stationed in relatively safe places. Some are brought to areas where harsh weather, chaos, and war are prominent. Wherever they are stationed, one of their duties and responsibilities is putting the safety of other people first. And this can cause injuries and other illnesses. 

Unfortunately, the cause of these physical injuries can be very traumatic. Soldiers tend to see things a regular civilian will never encounter. They lose their comrades, friends, and acquaintances. These concurrences affect their mental stability, causing them to develop posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, depression, and anger management issues after deployment. 

Being away from their families does not help either. They lack physical contact and intimacy with their loved ones. As a result, they miss out on important events. Their deployment risks their relationships. They do not get to have the luxury of having a lot of breaks and their own “me time.” 

The physical dangers and challenges brought by the job already take a toll on a person. However, their mental health and social relationships are severely affecting them too. These mental and social challenges do not go away when they go back home. Soldiers carry these burdens even after retirement. Physical injuries may eventually heal, but other scars will serve as a reminder of what they endured. 

How Therapy Helps Soldiers

It is normal for people to seek treatment for their physical injuries. So people should consider going to therapists and counselors to help them with their mental health. Therapy and counseling help people identify and understand their negative thoughts and find coping mechanisms for them. 

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According to a study, some soldiers try to take their own lives because they want to stop the intense psychological distress they are experiencing. They believe that committing suicide is the way to end the pain and suffering. 

Therapy can relieve this pain and suffering for soldiers. Talking to someone can help them organize their thoughts, especially after a traumatic experience. It cannot be easy to process what happened. There are times wherein soldiers put aside their feelings and focus on work instead of their mental health. While this coping style could be effective for a short time, it is still not healthy in the long run. 

Keeping thoughts and emotions to yourself is a close-minded approach. By talking to a therapist, these thoughts and emotions are seen in a different light. Being open about your experience can help in having a healthy mind. 

But therapy does not only make soldiers talk. Therapists guide soldiers and look for ways to accept what happened, move on, and not dwell on the pain and suffering.

The Difficulties Of Seeking Counsel

Seeking counsel is not the same for soldiers and civilians. Additionally, opening up and talking to someone about what you’re going through is easier said than done. For soldiers, it is harder to talk about topics, such as what they saw on the field, how they feel after losing someone, etc. Unfortunately, some prefer not to seek help. 

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There is a stigma that hinders soldiers from seeking help. There are negative connotations aligned with mental health awareness. The expectation of being mentally tough as a soldier also makes it more difficult to open up. Soldiers are seen as resilient people who can handle tough situations. They are expected to recover faster and not let emotions affect them. 

Most soldiers, then, prefer to figure out their problems on their own. They may feel that their supervisors might not be supportive or understanding. They are also afraid that revealing these problems will affect their work, deeming them unfit for service. But there is nothing wrong with seeking help. 

For soldiers, it’s difficult to ask for help from someone who does not know what they are going through exactly. They feel like therapists are just consulting with them and using academic sources to treat them, not truly understanding their trauma. But remember, these therapists are professionally trained for these situations. The person’s well-being is their top priority.

Conclusion

Soldiers are some of the toughest people in the world. They endure both physical and mental challenges. But even the toughest ones can break down and need help. Soldiers must not only prioritize their physical health but also their mental health. Seeking help from a therapist, counselor, or even a friend is beneficial for anyone, more so for soldiers. 

However, it is not easy to seek help, let alone acknowledge that you need it. Soldiers are not known to ask for help as their mantra is to help others. Their experiences are so extreme that their response to the trauma is not easy to share. 

But remember, seeking help is not a problem. Letting your health deteriorate is. So do not hesitate to ask for help. Your well-being is of utmost importance. Let yourself be taken care of this time.

Things PTSD Folks Need Besides Counseling

I had to let go of a friend today. I had known that woman since we were both doe-eyed freshmen in college. We were even roommates at one point and did not hate each other when it ended. When we found the love of our lives, I promised that she would become the godmother of my first child and vice versa.

What went wrong, you might ask?

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My husband, a Master’s Sergeant in the army, got diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It was undoubtedly the result of many years of being in the warzone in the Middle East. I confided to my friend for moral support, but when she found out about it, she said, “I hope you will understand, but my kids would not be able to come over to your house. I am worried that your husband would run one day amok and put them in danger.”

I would give you a minute to digest those words. I found them so hurtful and insensitive when I heard them; I did not even manage to react immediately. I mean, how callous could you be if you thought that all PTSD patients were violent? Saying that would be no different from generalizing that all blondes were dumb or that all people of specific color were dangerous.

In hindsight, I could see where my now-ex friend’s worries came from. There had been news reports from time to time regarding men with PTSD who committed heinous crimes in public merely because they could not bear the external noise or the noise in their heads. Sometimes, they would get caught; other times, they would kill themselves. Such situations were genuinely problematic, but she could have at least given me the chance to inform her that my husband was in another league compared to those people. In truth, he was cooperating well with his psychiatrist and counselor to get better in no time.

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I felt the need to talk about it with my husband’s counselor on our next visit because it was an issue that my husband needed to prepare for. She told us that not everyone would understand or would be willing to understand what he or our family was going through. There could be occasions when some people might run away as soon as they heard that four-letter acronym. “Although it will undoubtedly be painful,” the counselor told my husband, “That should not make you think that you are a lost cause because you are not.”

I was beyond grateful to the counselor for saying those words. She was right – the fact that my husband was going to counseling diligently was clear proof that healing and recovery were not impossible. It was sad that people like my former friend were too easy to treat them like garbage.

If you ever come across a PTSD patient, please remember that they also need:

Respect

Post-traumatic stress disorder is not always the result of going to the battlefield for an extended period. It can also result from experiencing abuse, witnessing violence, or even dealing with a crazy natural phenomenon (e.g., earthquake, volcanic eruption, forest fire, etc.).

Whatever may have caused a person’s PTSD, though, you must always see them before their condition. For instance, my husband deserves to be praised for his service to the country instead of getting shunned due to the invisible injuries he got out of it. If you can do that, it will be effortless to treat them with respect and kindness.

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Understanding

While I stand by what I said regarding the reality that not all PTSD patients were violent, you should know that they could not always be calm and collected. Just like you and me, they may wake up on the wrong side of the bed and not feel like talking or going out all day. Other times, they may seem jumpier than usual, especially when they see or hear things that may be too triggering for them.

In such scenarios, though, all you could do is be as understanding as possible. You could coax them to eat on time, try to give them distracting objects, or talk nonstop around them. However, if all else failed, you would only have to soothe the PTSD patients with anchoring words and make them feel safe.

Support

 My husband and I develop a new agreement right after his diagnosis. Since loud noises could trigger his PTSD, we always had to do a little research about our destination and go there when there were fewer people. If we had no other choice, he would drop me off at the door, park as far as possible from the location, and wait for my text to pick me up again.

I must admit that this arrangement could sometimes be a hassle, especially when I wished we were both presents. But instead of dwelling on that, I chose to stick with the routine so that his recovery would speed up.

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Final Thoughts

My husband’s discipline allowed him to get better faster than other people. Though he had to retire from the army during his healing process, he found another dream to focus on after that: building a family restaurant. He still felt down at times – it’s something that might never go away – but my husband learned a few coping mechanisms that I was sure he could apply if needed in the future.

Counseling A Friend Of A Fallen Hero

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John was my high school sweetheart. Even before we started dating, he told me how much he wanted to join the army as soon as he met the age limit. He came from a family of soldiers, you see, so he had a strong sense of duty. In truth, all his three brothers were already deployed in various parts of the world at the time.

Although we had a similar family background, John’s desire to become a soldier initially made me want to stay away from him. My father died in Iraq in the line of duty when I was young, you see. I fear that it would happen to John in the future and leave me as a young widow. However, John eventually got me to say yes when he took the traditional route and visited me at the house often so that my mother knew that his intentions were pure.

Becoming Young Adults

John and I had a blissful summer together after our high school graduation. At that point in our relationship, we were very much in love with each other. We knew that we were meant to grow old and have grandbabies together. John continued to show his seriousness to my family even when we started dating, so they loved him, too.

Once the news about the enlistment spread, I was with John as he waited to send his application. He honestly did not need moral support; he burst with excitement because it had been his lifelong dream to join the army. I was mainly there because I was more nervous than him. It was silly of me to think so, but I felt as if the military would deploy John as soon as they got his application, so I had to be there to say goodbye to him.

Of course, that did not happen since John had to go through basic training first. He could have done it at once, but being the devoted boyfriend that he was, John decided to start training right after driving me to the university and helping me unpack at my new apartment. He even stayed for the night, and we spent most of it cuddling because only God knew when it could happen again.

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Despite that, neither of us cried when John was about to leave the next day. We had talked about that moment repeatedly in the past, and he would always joke that I should save my tears for his funeral. I would swat him all the time and knock on wood, and we would always share a laugh. So, when the time finally came for his basic training, I made sure to hold back my tears and told John how proud I was of him.

Doing The Long Distance Thing

John got deployed to the Middle East as soon as his training ended. It was a two-year contract, and I would be lying if I said I did not feel scared for him. After all, that’s where my father passed away. I prayed every day for John’s safety.

On his part, John tried to ease my worries by calling me as often as possible. I would hear his fellow soldiers joking about him being whipped, but he bantered with them well and practically did not mind being called as such.

When two years ended, and it was time for John to come home, I was so sad that I could not pick him up at the airport. I had a major exam for my psychology subject, and the professor did not allow me to skip it. While I longed to see John, I had been busting my ass in the last two years in university because I wanted to become a psychologist/counselor. That exam could make or break my future career, so I had no choice but to stay put. John promised to visit me on the same weekend after spending a few days with his family, so I just told myself to be patient.

Right before the exam, I received a call from John that his plane already landed. I wanted to weep, but I composed myself. I was about to go on a three-hour test, and I was hell-bent on acing it. Once the clock started, I became so engrossed with it that I did not notice John’s arrival. Thus, you could imagine how shocked I was when I stepped out of the classroom and saw him in the middle of the hallway, holding an open jewelry box, smiling at me.

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Life After Marriage

As you might have guessed, John proposed to me that day. We could have gotten married around that time, but we decided to do it once his second deployment ended so that we could go on a month-long honeymoon.

John considered getting deployed locally so that he could take me with him, and we could build a life together. His desire to do so strengthened when I got pregnant a few years later. However, there was an ongoing war in the Middle East, and they needed the best snipers there, and John was one of them, so he had to go back there.

In reality, I understood John’s decision to go overseas. It was dangerous, but he was only fulfilling his duty. I merely busied myself with fixing the nursery and opening my mental health clinic downtown.

Counseling My Husband

Our baby was almost one year old when John managed to return home. I could not help but cry when tears flowed down his cheeks as he hugged us tightly and almost did not want to let go even during the two-hour drive home.

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Once the baby was asleep, I finally understood why John acted that way. Aside from missing us terribly, the death of one of his close friends in the military hit him hard. John felt sad that his friend would no longer be able to hug his family as he did.

I would have been an awful psychologist if I did not see the signs of PTSD in my husband early. We talked about everything he witnessed in the Middle East for hours until we were both too tired to talk. While having breakfast, John told me that he considered getting counseling to overcome his issues. I agreed to do it immediately, grateful for the fact that he was willing to take that extra step to feel better.

I could have offered counseling at home, but John wanted to do it at my clinic. He booked an appointment and everything, saying that it was also his chance to see me in action. After a few sessions, John made a big decision and told me that he would retire from the army.

“I would always take pride in the years I spent in the military, but I don’t want you to see me in a casket anytime soon. I have taken business classes during my deployment anyway; I can open a restaurant next to your clinic,” John said.

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Frequently Asked Questions About EMDR And PTSD

Military veterans have gone through unimaginable life experiences to serve the country. Some of these experiences may include too much danger, which can be traumatic. 

Trauma is not new to these veterans. The mere memories of their experiences can bring utter discomfort. Simple associations about the traumatic experience can instantly relive the feelings. It may then lead to increased fear and anxiety to the point of detaching themselves, even from loved ones.

If you have a family member who’s a military veteran, observe these indicators. Often, these symptoms may indicate post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which is sadly common for veterans. Unfortunately, this condition can affect the overall quality of life.

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Some of the most common ways to manage PTSD include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), antidepressants, and anti-anxiety medications. Additional support from loved ones and group therapy members can also help improve this condition.

But apart from these, emerging technologies like EMDR are on the rise to combat PTSD. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) seeks to reverse negative thoughts and feelings associated with a traumatic experience. 

During an EMDR session, the therapist will ask the patient to recall a traumatic event while moving their fingers side-to-side. This simple movement proves beneficial in changing how PTSD patients react to their trauma.

According to a study, EMDR is also more effective than trauma-based CBT when reducing negative associations. Because of these benefits and its growing popularity, you may be enticed to start this treatment immediately. But before you seek this option, make sure you have a reasonable understanding of EMDR.

This article aims to provide more information about EMDR as PTSD treatment. In this article, we’ve answered some FAQs about EMDR therapy.

What is EMDR trauma therapy?

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is commonly used to treat post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). During EMDR therapy, the patient briefly and sequentially recalls distressing memories while simultaneously concentrating on an external stimulus.

It utilizes rapid and rhythmic lateral eye movement through therapist direction or other external stimuli such as audio stimulation and hand-tapping.

Can EMDR traumatize?

EMDR does not traumatize as directing the eye movements while recalling traumatic events diverts patients’ attention. However, it requires stability through its initial phases to gain an excellent emotional foundation in recalling their traumatic experiences.

What therapy is best for trauma?

There are numerous therapy techniques therapists use for addressing trauma patients. Most therapies combine different therapy techniques to resolve trauma. It may include therapy methods such as CBT, psychotherapy, EMDR, exposure therapy, and hypnotherapy.

How many sessions of EMDR do you need for PTSD?

The specific number of EMDR sessions for PTSD is around 6 to 12 sessions, delivered 1 to 2 times every week. However, some people see significant improvements in their condition, even with fewer sessions.

Can EMDR make you worse?

Since EMDR requires you to recall your trauma history, it’s not uncommon to experience discomfort while in session. However, therapists trained with providing EMDR will have the proper training in handling symptoms and side effects that may arise during the therapy.

Can EMDR cause false memories?

There are only a few reported cases of EMDR, causing false memories. It’s because, unlike talk therapy, there is little clinical input in EMDR. Thus, the process of EMDR allows the brain to make the correct internal connection while recalling traumatic events.

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Why is EMDR terrible?

EMDR is generally a safe and widely-supported therapy method. That said, as the process causes a heightened awareness of your mind, it can cause headaches and light-headedness. However, EMDR manifests lesser side effects compared to when you take prescription medications.

Can EMDR cause suicidal thoughts?

Various associations can come to the surface in the middle phases of EMDR, including suicidal ideation. These associations can get triggered during the preprocessing phase. They are generally manageable and not causes harmful effects to the patient.

Can you do EMDR on yourself?

It is possible to apply EMDR techniques and strategies in your daily life. However, you would still need an EMDR therapist to process distressing memories that surface from using EMDR techniques. They will help you develop effective coping mechanisms and resolutions to overcome your past traumas.

Is EMDR permanent?

Many studies have found evidence that patients can maintain the effects of EMDR therapy in the long term. However, it will only be possible if they are given consistent standard care after undergoing EMDR therapy.

How do you tell if you have repressed trauma?

Many studies have found evidence that patients can maintain the effects of EMDR therapy in the long term. This will only be possible if they are given consistent standard care after undergoing EMDR therapy.

Is EMDR a form of hypnosis?

No, EMDR is not a form of hypnosis or hypnotic technique. Unlike hypnosis, EMDR does not put patients in a trance-like state of consciousness. It is a visualization technique involving recalling and reprocessing traumatic memories.

Can EMDR treat ADHD?

EMDR has been studied as a treatment for ADHD with promising results. However, it still needs further research and conclusive evidence to determine its efficacy in treating the condition.

How does EMDR rewire the brain?

EMDR connects memories of traumatic events with new information and configures the brain’s dysfunctional neural networks in the process. EMDR allows the body to resolve repressed sensations and triggers by blending new emotions and thoughts into distressing memories.

What are the 8 phases of EMDR?

The eight phases of EMDR navigate through periods of past, present, and future experiences concerning traumatic experiences. Going through these phases allows a patient to resolve memories of traumatic events emotionally. Here are the eight phases of EMDR:

  1. Trauma history taking
  2. Client preparation
  3. Assessment
  4. Desensitization
  5. Installation
  6. Body Scan
  7. Closure
  8. Treatment progress examination

Conclusion

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Based on the answers above, EMDR is a treatment that requires the guidance of a professional. Recalling a traumatic event alone may prove to be upsetting. Allowing professionals to facilitate EMDR will ensure better success for the treatment. 

EMDR is a complicated treatment option. It means there should also be high standards for a therapist. First, consider the therapist’s credibility. Make sure to choose someone who has an EMDRIA certification.

Certified EMDR therapists are the only professionals who can use EMDR. They can simultaneously do the treatment while ensuring that anxiety attacks won’t occur. With their EMDRIA-certified, they can also address any questions or concerns about the treatment. 

It is also essential to consider the patient and therapist’s compatibility. Choose a therapist who respectful and who listens. Remember, the majority of the EMDR sessions will include sharing memories and feelings with the therapist.

Lastly, find an EMDR therapist whose treatment is within the insurance coverage. EMDR therapy is a long process that may take up to 6-12 sessions for over six weeks.

Upon finding an EMDR clinic and an understanding therapist, the journey towards peaceful living begins. With a solid support system and commitment to positive progress, it’s possible to enjoy life as a veteran. 

For the veterans, believe you can do it and trust your EMDR therapist throughout your treatment process. In time, you’ll learn to conquer your trauma and live your life to the fullest again!

 

Mental Health: PTSD Issues

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Back when I was in school, I had always been bullied for looking different. It had been very difficult for me to make friends growing up because of this, and my self-confidence was at its lowest. So, when I had the chance, I had decided to train to become an army reservist. It was a risk I was willing to take because, at the time, I had not much reason to live. It was a suicide mission for me, one that I never wanted to come back from.

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Understanding The Family Life Of A Military Man

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Being a family member of a military man seemed to be difficult especially from other people’s points of view. Knowing the life in the military, the lives of servicemen are always at risk, and staying at one place may be likely impossible to do. Nevertheless, one can still be proud of having family members like them because not all are given the chance to be of service to his countrymen.

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What Every Veteran Needs To Know

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Being a veteran comes with several challenges that you need to face every single day. Sometimes, you will even think that your life has become complicated the moment you stopped serving in the military. Take note that what you are feeling at this moment is only typical for any veteran. As such, you must not worry about it. However, it does not mean that you will remain complacent with your current situation.

It is wrong for us to ask our service members to risk their lives for our freedom without properly considering all of the costs involved with that privilege, and what we as a nation can do to support our troops and their families. — Michael Friedman Ph.D.

For today’s article, we are going to share to you the essential things that every veteran like you needs to know. The purpose of this post or write up is to encourage veterans like you to live life to the fullest. Remember that you have a second chance to enjoy life, which is why you need to make it count.

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Veterans Have Chronic Conditions

Are you aware that many veterans are suffering from chronic illnesses? It is the reason why the healthcare industry for people like you is active. If you are one of these persons who are suffering from chronic pain, be sure to get the help that you need as soon as possible. Look for a doctor who can give you a proper diagnosis of what you are going through. Otherwise, you will only end up getting sick each day.

Veterans Have Various Legal Rights

 Another essential information that you need to know is the fact that many veterans enjoy a wide latitude of protection from the law. For example, you can get more discounts when you buy medicines compared to regular American citizens. At the same time, veterans can also receive higher monthly pensions as long as they are qualified. Make sure that you will keep yourself updated about these laws so that you can take advantage of them.

The “degrees of separation” game tells us that almost everyone in this country is related to a veteran in some way. Yet so much of what veterans and those who love them experience remains unspoken, part of the price paid for the way our country segregates war out from civilian life. — Sam Osherson Ph.D.

Veterans Have Associations

If you want to connect with fellow veterans who have experienced the same things that you did, be sure to consider joining organizations. Fortunately, there are tons of groups to choose from. It is best to get to know the vision-mission of the group first before you will sign up as a member. Take note that the kind of people that you associate yourself with can affect your mental health.

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Veterans Seek Professional Help

Many veterans have also suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder. The best part of all is that many veterans have considered trying therapy sessions to make themselves betters. If you believe that you also need help in handling your issues, be sure to consider seeking professional advice as soon as possible. Never delay the assistance that you need. Otherwise, you will end up feeling sorry for yourself once your condition gets worse. The right step is to find the best therapist in town and book an appointment.

The way the person’s brain adapted to manage past pains may no longer be serving them well in the present. Instead, these changes may be contributing to emotional distress. — Alex Afram, PhD

Make sure to keep yourself constantly updated about the latest news involving veterans. Whenever there is an event honoring veterans, be sure to attend it. In so doing, you will get an opportunity to meet other veterans and network with them.   

Your Guide To Overcoming Trauma

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One of the challenges that many veterans face includes dealing with a traumatic experience.

Whether you like it or not, there are some events in the past that will continue to hunt you down at the present or even in the future. Because of this, it is essential to learn the different ways on how you can overcome trauma so that you can have a better life.

 Take note that life is difficult whenever you allow trauma to take over your life. If you do not do anything about it, there is a high chance that the situation will become worse. As long as you have trauma in your life, you will never live the best days of your life as a veteran. At the same time, your relationship with other people may also be affected. Below are some of the techniques to remember if you want to overcome trauma as soon as possible:

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Talk To Someone

Experiencing trauma can make you feel like you are an insane person. Your thoughts will continue to disturb you until you can no longer take it. As such, you must find a way to open up about your problems and issues in life. Remember that what you are going through at the moment or right now is something that you cannot handle alone. Be strong enough to understand the reality that you need someone to talk to about your issues.

Accept Your Situation

Another thing that you must stop doing is denying to yourself the reality that you are having a hard time. You need to face the challenges that you encounter every day. Do not be a coward by forcing yourself to live in a false reality, wherein you will tell everyone that you are okay when you are not. Keep in mind that acceptance is the thing you need if you want to keep yourself free from trauma.

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Know That Everything Is Normal

Remind yourself that you are not the only one who is suffering from traumatic stress or disorder. In so doing, you will start or begin to open your eyes to the possibility of connecting with other victims of trauma. It is the primary reason we highly recommend that you build a relationship with other veterans. Connect with them so that you can share your problems and issues with each other.

Seek Professional Help

Make sure that you will also consider seeking the professional services of a therapist or online counselor (ideally via BetterHelp). If you genuinely want to help yourself, then stop becoming afraid of what others may say if you will attend therapy sessions. Remember that what matters at this point is believing that you will get better. Never let the comments of other people prevent you from getting the help you need. Take note that there are some mental health experts who specialize in dealing with clients going through traumatic stress.

If there is one thing that you need to accept at this point, it is the truth that your current situation is only temporary. Things will get better soon if you know how to treat yourself right.  

Tips To Enjoy Your Life As A Veteran

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As babies and little children, when we experience pain and trauma, perhaps one of our only protections is to numb ourselves to the painful experience and the feelings that go with it. But as we grow, what was once a protection against death, either physical or psychological, becomes a defense…not only against something in the outer world that will be painful or traumatic, but also – maybe even moreso – against those painful feelings from before being evoked and awakened again. — Judith Barr, MS, LPC

Is it your goal to have a happy and satisfying life? Do you want to become the best wonderful version of yourself? Are you interested in spending better days with the ones you love? If you answered yes to all these questions, then be sure to read this article from start to bottom. For today’s post, we are going to provide you with some tips and tricks on how you can enjoy life as a veteran.

Our primary goal is to encourage every veteran out there to live the most out of your life. Now that you are no longer under the military service, you have to see to it that you will continue to reward yourself. Take note that everything you do today can have a significant impact on how your life will become. As such, you must prioritize your own happiness above anything else. Here are things to remember:  

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It’s not just about the hours you’re getting—it’s about how consistent those hours are. — Jade Wu Ph.D.

Get Enough Sleep

Make sure that you will not abuse your body by seeing to it that you will sleep on time. Remind yourself that now is the right time to get the rest that you deserve. As much as possible, follow a strict bedtime schedule so that you will not end up staying up late at night. 

Go Out With Friends

Did you miss important events or occasions when you were deployed in several places before? Do you want to make up for the lost times with your loved ones or family members? Fortunately, you can still get an opportunity to do it now. All you have to do is to make time with them. Find a way to meet them whenever you can. 

With the growing need for effective mental health services, many veterans are turning to alternative forms of “green” treatment in outdoor settings. Since camaraderie, physical challenge, and personal growth are characteristics of both military service and of many of the ecotherapeutic programs cropping up around the United States, it makes this an ideal treatment form for veterans struggling with posttraumatic stress. — Abbie Hausermann, MSW, LICSW

Exercise Regularly

Just because you are no longer in the military does not mean that you can already take your body for granted. You must stop making excuses for not going to the gym or doing physical activities. The right thing to do is to exercise at least three times a week. If you find exercising difficult, do not fret because a simple morning job can already satisfy this requirement.

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Read A Book

Do you have more spare time these days? If yes, consider yourself lucky because you can now start reading a book. All that you must do is to select the title of the book that you like. Take note that reading a book will be good for yourself as it will allow you to use your imagination. At the same time, it can also be an excellent way of allowing yourself to learn more. If you love stories, it is best to read novels. If you want something real, you can go for non-fiction books.

Being a veteran does not mean that you have to live a boring life. What is essential I that you know how to make the best out of the current situation that you have. Improve the way you live your life now, and everything great will follow. 

How To Make A Veteran Happy

 

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There are many things that you need to keep in mind when it comes to dealing with a veteran. First of all, remind yourself that the said individual may have issues that will make your interaction with him more challenging. At the same time, you must also understand the reality that the veteran will expect a lot of things from you. As such, you must learn how to make him happy at all times. In today’s article, we are going to provide you with some tips and tricks on how to increase a veteran’s level of happiness.

One thing that the military does, from boot camp on, is to create profound interdependence and a different level of trust than anything most people have ever experienced before. — Shauna H Springer Ph.D.

Be Appreciative

The initial step to complete is to let the other person know how much you appreciate the efforts that he has made in the past. Let him know that you recognize how brave and courageous he is. Take note that you must see to it that he will hear your positive comments regularly. It can have a significant positive effect on his part. You will be surprised at how your compliments can make him smile, not only for the day but for the entire week.

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Honor Him At All Times

There are tons of activities designed to honor veterans or to celebrate the sacrifices they have made for other people. It would mean a lot to your loved one, who is a veteran if you can show up for these events. Make him feel that you are interested in being part of the celebration. Your little gesture will surely mean a lot to him. At the same time, it will also be a reminder on his part of how proud you are of him.

Fully appreciating their degree of commitment means not only understanding the risks and struggles of soldiers on the battlefield, but also the stress experienced by military families, who often endure tremendous hardship when their loved ones are deployed. — Michael Friedman Ph.D.

Make A Donation

Are you aware that there are several organizations designed for veterans? What you need to do is to ask the other person about his affiliation. Once you have gotten the name of the organization, find a way to make little contributions whenever you can. Keep in mind that it is not required or mandatory to, especially if you are not doing well in terms of finances. What is essential is that you will make an effort to reach out to the organization and show your support in a way you know.

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Communicate With Him

When talking to a veteran, be sure that you will keep on asking questions about his previous life. The goal is to make him feel that you are giving attention to his bravery in the past. The said individual would surely be happy to open up about his experiences. Take note that the more he discusses these things with you, the more confident he will become. In the long run, you will start to notice that there will be an improvement in his mood and overall mental health.

Regardless of our politics, though, consider that—as every veteran to whose story I have listened in the past dozen years has said—there is absolutely no way to know what war is really like before you go to war. In listening to these stories I have been struck by the integrity and sincerity of the beliefs of each veteran, whether or not their views of their war are the same as mine. — Paula J. Caplan Ph.D.

 Dealing with a veteran may be challenging, but you have to do it if you want to make your loved one happy. Otherwise, they may start needing the services of BetterHelp to feel somewhat better. Follow the things we mentioned above so that you will not have a hard time painting a smile on his face.